"Winning" and "Losing" are, like many things, defined by the "winner" or the "loser".
For example, let's say you went to a chess tournament in order to improve your chess game and observe masters. Would it matter then, who got checkmate? Not one bit. Your desired outcome had nothing to do with winning the game, and had everything to do with personal victory caused by self improvement & astute observation.
I urge you to redefine how you win. One great definition is learning and/or trying your best. If you fail to try your best, then at least you learned something!
Winning, and losing, both have a momentum to them. If you define your life so that its nearly impossible to lose, as strange as it sounds, you'll develop killer momentum. You'll be more inclined to take on "impossible" projects, and make more "mistakes"
The only difference between millionaires and non-millionaires is that the millionaires have made ten times the number of mistakes as the non.
Push past your own self-imposed fears & limitations. Redefine victory, and achieve it daily!
Recommended Viewing: Rocky Balboa for its inspirational speeches, and, if you haven't already seen it, Rocky (for the backstory etc)
Sensei Ono, Shinka Martial Arts
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