Mental Toughness: How to Always have choice

Remove the phrase "I have to" from your vocabulary, and replace it with "I get to" or "I choose to."

"Having to" do just about anything is just not the case.  You've created this life, you've chosen this path, and you are forging your steps towards greatness one day at a time.  You've chosen your future and you are building towards it.

You don't "have" to do a damn thing.  So, embrace life, and recognize that there is always a choice.

In fact, take any challenge you have in your life, where you have to do something to get it done, and come up with at least 3 options to get your desired outcome.

If you have the choice between one thing and another, you don't have a choice, you have an ultimatum.  When you start getting into groups of 3 or more choices, you have choice, you have creativity; you have variety and the ability to mix and match.

"Okay, I don't want to solve this through option A, and option B is no better... what's the third option?"

Presuppose there is a third option.  Presuppose success.

When you're playing a difficult part in a video game, you assume that there is an easy way to beat the level that you just haven't figured out yet.  Treat life in the same manner and all sorts of doors will open for you.

There IS an easier, better, faster, more fulfilling and enjoyable method.  Its right behind the...

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Mental Toughness: How to learn to respect, but do not let yourself be hindered by, criticism

Mastering your emotions is a step towards awesome.  If you learn to respect, accept, but not be hindered by criticism, you will be far ahead of those who cannot hone this skill.

To be able to impartially observe people's criticism and weigh it as though it were not directed at you, as well as weigh the source (and understand their perspective) it will give you significant advantage.

Also, if someone takes issue with something you have done - it does not necessarily matter if you are "right" - in the end, your actions have caused someone to take issue with you and, if at all possible, it should be fixed.

Having said that, you cannot allow yourself to be hindered by other people's criticism.  By the very nature of being awesome, you will be picking a stance towards your passion.

You will be driven and you will exceed others in your field with your laser accuracy towards your goals.

As a result, there will be those who love and adore your methods, and those who disagree with them.  You must be strong and not allow their opinions to sway your passion, though still humble enough to allow them to sway your methods.

Ultimately, ask yourself if they are aligned with you.  Do they have a similar life outlook, similar passion, and similar drive?  If so, weigh their criticisms higher than if not.  Listen to all, but weigh appropriately.

"You can't let praise or criticism get to you.  It's a weakness to get caught up in either one." - John Wooden.

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