Mental Toughness: How to forgive

Revenge is a dish you don't even want to prepare, let alone serve (at any temperature)

Let it go.  (easy to say, but how to do it?)

Love is the ultimate power source.  We've talked about it as a motivator, and as a fuel.  It is also a powerful tool when it comes to forgiveness.

There are some truly horrible people in this world.  Rapists, murderers etc.  How can we possibly forgive these people?

The human being is not a logical creature.  It is an emotional creature.

What that means, is that you don't need to understand, exactly, why they did, what they did.  You also don't have to say they're right (or wrong).  All you have to do, is let it go.  Your anger only hurts you, not them.

Expecting human beings to be logical is like expecting computers to be emotional.  Its a nice fantasy, but the truth is we just aren't.

People do the best that they can, in the place that they are.  Nobody is evil.  Even Hitler had reasons for doing the atrocities that he did.  And, to him, they seemed justifiable, and even noble.

Understand, you don't have to see things from their perspective, or forget what they've done.  All you have to do is let go of the emotional weight of anger.

A funny article on the subject you may want to read is: Forgiveness vs Dead Guinea Pigs.

Ultimately, understand that forgiveness takes away the power that this person holds over you.  It is a fear-based weakness to hate, and it is a love-based strength to forgive.

Don't let them have power over you any more.  Let them go and live well.

Recommended Reading: Forgiveness: How to make peace with your past and get on with your life

Sensei Ono, Shinka Martial Arts
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