Mental Toughness: How to Embrace Relativity

People in your life mean well, but what they are unconsciously or even sometimes consciously doing, is bringing you to their level.

If they happen to be higher than you, that's usually helpful - but ultimately, people bring you to their reality.  They attract you to what they perceive as being a good life.

Say, for example, you were privy to the dinner conversation that would take place if Hitler, Gandhi, George Bush, Michael Jackson, and Rosanne Bar all sat down together.  Quite the conflagration of obscenities, viewpoints, and the occasional "hoo!" and "ach!" to make a point, I'm sure.

The point is, we are all simply doing what we think is best.  That's what I'm doing right now, writing this blog - bringing you to my reality.  That's what your parents do when they either encourage or discourage you; bringing you to their reality.

Imagine this scenario.  You are on cloud 9.  You've just come up with THE BEST idea... in the world.  It will make you kajillions of dollars and everyone will love you.  Your idea has no flaws whatsoever.

What would someone close to you do?  They care for you, they love you.  What would they immediately look for?

Flaws.  They would want to bring you down to their level, instinctively.  You're SO MUCH MORE EXCITED than they are... that they instinctively want to bring you back to their level.

Conversely, you are so excited that you want to bring them up to your level.  Often, one succeeds.  Sometimes a compromise is made and a halfway point reached.

Now, let's take this exact same scenario, but, you have another, worthless, crappy idea that'll go nowhere.  You suck at most things anyway, who would buy that crummy thing from YOU?

What would a loved one do?  They'd bring you up to their level, or, you'd bring them down to yours, or, a compromise between the two would be reached.

So, the next time someone says you have too much time on your hands, or that something looks too hard, or they say you're way too happy, or anything of that nature, I dare you to reply "compared to what?"

Recommended Viewing: Rudy (compared to what?)

Sensei Ono, Shinka Martial Arts
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